“I’m curious about who you work with.”

I’m curious about who you work with.

Subtext:
Are you for ME?
Do I belong here?
Or is this just another scenario where I’ll
feel unseen and misunderstood?

Oh, my friend: I get it.

As marginalized people, feeling seen and understood is really f*cking important.

We’ve each got HISTORY.

The pain of being treated like we’re “incomprehensible” or “don’t make sense.”

So, let me say this once and for all:

YOU BELONG.
And everything about you makes perfect sense.

Every goddamn facet of your identity,
every delightful little quirk you have,
and all your joyous contradictions.

All exactly right.

So the real question is…
are we a fit for each other?

Let me try and help with that.

-Meera

Things my people

(usually)

have in common

“Working with you, I felt seen and so profoundly accepted on my own terms.

For me, it was so, so helpful to have this experience with someone coming from a similar queer person of color background. I didn't have to explain or translate myself when working with you.”

- R.P. -

Things My People usually have in common…

  • You feel…different. Outside the lines: like you never quite fit the “template” of how others expect humans like you to be…even in spaces that are meant for you on paper. (It can make you feel like a perpetual outsider)

  • You’re at odds with a lot of the institutions and social structures you’re in, so it’s hard to figure out how to exist in them while staying true to yourself. (uggggh, can’t we just start OVER?)

  • You have a sense of humor. It’s deliciously weird. It helps you survive.

  • In relationships, you’re the “capable one.” The one who fixes things, and handles things. The one people come to for solutions, support and help. (also, you kinda think no one can handle that shit as well as you)

  • You’re deeply principled, kind, and good. You REALLY care about doing the right thing. Hypocrisy pisses you off. (you’re quick to worry that you’re “falling short” of these ideals)

  • You’re service-driven and protective of vulnerable people. You’re drawn to give the things you once needed. You want to contribute to collective liberation, not just get your slice of the pie. (flip-side: you tend to override your own needs, and overextend for others)

  • You’ve got a little fight in you.
    You might’ve buried it deeeeeep down under some survival strategies, but there’s still a Tiny Defiant Voice that shows up inside you and doesn’t like when you silence yourself.

  • YOU CAN GET REALLY TANGLED UP IN YOUR OWN HEAD. Damn - it’s exhausting in there!

Things that’ll make us

an easy fit (or not)

“I can't tell you how wonderful it is to work with someone who can talk about the experience of being marginalized simultaneously with an incredible sense of humor and with the capacity to just hold space for the very real grief, anger, and other painful emotions that come up when you're fighting to exist in an unjust world.”

- H.B.-

We’ll be an easy fit if…

  • You’re self-reflective, and for you, awareness drives change. Once you know something inside yourself, you can’t un-know it. And you don’t want to!

  • You’re creative, soul-driven and practical. You’re down to explore shit using metaphor or deep inquiry, then ask...ok, so what does this mean for how I’ll lead that call on Tuesday?

  • You want to know yourself deeply and well (even if you’re nervous about what you’ll find in there!)

  • You’re good with laughter, cussing, honesty, and calling shit like it is. With compassion underpinning all of it.

  • You’ve done lots of therapy. You know the origins of your struggles, and tend to the brave work of healing. You’re looking for something a little different here.

  • You’re curious! About this, yourself, and what could be possible for you.

  • You’re willing to SLOW DOWN, trust yourself, BE yourself, and allow things to unfold organically (no overriding yourself on my watch)

I’m NOT for you if…

  • You’re here to “win” or get to the “top of your game”

  • You want to “hack” things through quick fixes and surface-level mindset change

  • You want someone to bully you and call it accountability (the fuck?)

  • You’re trying to “fix” yourself (HELLO, YOU ARE NOT BROKEN.)

  • You’re looking for someone to tell you what to do

  • You want to figure out how to fit other people’s standards

  • You want to imitate me (This is not a cult: I want you to be more YOU!)

  • You want to explore intellectually / theoretically without applying anything to your actual life

  • (….Basically anything where you want me to collude with your inner or outer oppressor)